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By on December 30, 2015

This is the number of years that my parents have been married today.  It’s their anniversary.

A couple teenagers decided it would be a good idea to make a go of building a life together.  And build a life they did.

They became parents at 18 years old and then had a couple more girls to add to the family.  They moved to a small tight knit community where they didn’t know anyone.  They started a business.

Over the 37 years they lived in the County of Two Hills, they made life long friendships and became part of the fabric of the community.  Lakeland Trenching celebrated 35 years in business this year.  They have raised 3 independent daughters and have been fabulous grandparents to 9 grandchildren.  I call this a life well built.

However, on the morning of this anniversary, they did not start with a glass of champagne or a sleep in.  First thing today they headed into the hospital to get litres of fluid drained from Dad.  His cancer is not fucking off.  His cancer is fucking with things.  Dad is getting uncomfortable and the pain is getting worse.

My parents decided a long time ago to live with this fucking cancer.  So later today after a nice long nap, they will meet up with some family, go to the VIP cinema, see Star Wars and play cards, maybe go out for dinner.  They will stay in a King suite for a couple nights.  They will enjoy this day to the fullest-just as they have done this entire year.  And they will do this again tomorrow and the next day.

This is a difficult time.  The changes in Dad are now quite visible.  The fucking cancer is eating away at his big strong muscles.  Thankfully the changes are only physical.  His strength is still at his core.  Also, his eyes are still that piercing blue color-so suck that cancer.

Even at this most difficult time (understatement), my parents continue to show us all how to live well.

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13 Comments
  1. Reply

    Beck

    December 30, 2015

    I’m bawling (where is my weeping buddha!!!) but still laughing…what a wreck of emotions your write up brought on! Awesome write up to honour my most favourite people in the world!

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    Mom and Dad

    December 30, 2015

    We are blessed with the best daughters (and family and friends) anyone could even ever dream to have. We could not do this alone. We will fight this cancer to the end, and we ARE tough so Fuck Off cancer!!!!!!!!!

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    Mom and Dad

    December 30, 2015

    Hey – great pic !

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      Deb

      December 31, 2015

      Thank you. See you next year. ?

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      Deb

      December 31, 2015

      Sorry, that was meant for Kerri… I wanted to say love the pic too!

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    Donna

    December 31, 2015

    So true, every word of this, Kerri.

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    Netco

    December 31, 2015

    What Beck said!! Such a great tribute!

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    Sheila

    December 31, 2015

    Have water leaking out of my eyes which is quite a feat Keri This is not a common occurrence. You have amazing parents that are amazing friends to a whole host of people.

    Your words say it all… Hate cancer.

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    Deb

    December 31, 2015

    Beautiful Kerri! Me and little Pederson sitting here crying as well. Sorry we didn’t get to see you at Xmas. HNY!

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      Kerri

      December 31, 2015

      Yeah sorry we missed you too! Have a good night!

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        Auntie Sheila

        December 31, 2015

        Hi Kerri – what a great photo and a beautifully written essay about your folks.
        Indeed, they faced a lot of hardships in those early days but it made them very tough farm folks and they certainly melted right into the community.

        FUCK CANCER! And, good for you living each day as it comes, Monica!

        Happy New Year!

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    Aunty Sheryl

    January 2, 2016

    As soon as I seen the picture I knew I’d have a hard time getting through this blog, but I pushed on as we all have to do, each on our own time. We felt so blessed to be able to celebrate with your mom & dad on this very special day and then your dad tasked me with making sure his ‘special girl’ got a ‘special gift’ to mark the occasion. Well needless to say when your mom and I got in the car to head to the jewelry store we didn’t even make it to the first set of lights and we both lost it – but we pushed on and just said to ourselves ‘god help the clerk that serves us today’. Well we were able to pick out 3 beautiful pieces of jewelry, each with a ‘special meaning’, that I know your mom will treasure for the rest of her life. Hmmm – 3 pieces of jewelry, 3 beautiful daughters – how coinkydinky.
    Beautiful blog as usual Kerri – you always make me so proud ?

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      Kerri

      January 2, 2016

      Thank you for going with Mom for that special present. If Dad couldn’t do it, you were the exact right person. Love you!

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